Many people won’t admit it especially guys like us but we have liked somebody not because our heart and mind commanded it but because our libido made us like the person instantly and the lasting impression of how they look when we first saw them wearing that pencil skirt with that white tank top and gray cardigan or how tight their high-waist pants was with that black tank top when you saw them wear it in some year-ender event in your school begging to get laid.
Before we get naughty with some stories when I was still a psychology major, the one thing I learned about libido is that we must always find a way to gratify it. For starters, there is spanking your monkey, fapping well masturbation in general. There are a lot of ways to spank your monkey. Just ask one of your friends if you could borrow one of his favorite men’s magazines with your favorite model and actress from GMA in it. If you want real action but don’t want to get someone pregnant, there always the nearest drugstore or convenience store to buy yourself a condom but if you really can’t help it, control the urge from having sex at all and suppress that dirty mind from all the fantasies you have. So without libido, you cannot have that sexual urge to have that person in your mind and get it on with her.
Back in high school, I was invited to this birthday party then I didn’t expect that it will be an overnight party. I did not have extra clothes since we all went there after school and I really wanted to go home but it was too late to back out, I didn’t bring my casuals and their driver will be too tired to bring me home since she lives in Libis which is like the Alabang of the north Metro Manila. Later that night, when we were all dressed to sleep I was already drunk with some of our friends then I remember her wearing this intimate outfit that tells every guy in the room; “Hey boys, who wants to go first?” Nothing happened but all I can do was look at her from head-to-toe with my drunk self then some of her girl friends in the room tells me, “HOY RICKY! NGAYON LANG BA NAKAKITA NG CLEAVAGE?” and with all honesty I told her yes. We were all friends until some of us had differences and back stabbing each other.
In my three semesters of college, I have almost gone crazy with some of the girls in school. One was with this skinny college senior who really looked hot in that psychology uniform and man she could really leave a trail of fire when she walk around the campus. Another is with someone who’s truly high maintenance but for now let’s leave it that way. But allow me to write this instead when I was enrolled for the summer in our school, I had this classmate in summer class who wanted to copy this statistical software from me. Now I didn’t expect her to go to me to copy that software since I didn’t look like one of the bad boys but that didn’t make me safe from that one friend and class mate who told me after I let her copy the software, “TANGINA KA PRE TINIGASAN NA PINAGPAPAWISAN PA!” He’s one guy who would really want to give it to her more than me. I’m still friends with the man.
I’ve never had lady friend who is truly willing to share how she dreams or fancies a guy but if some men could only imagine how the ladies dream of getting it on with the man of their dreams the way we do with our own flavor of the month, let’s try now. Let’s try to think like a girl and imagine how would a hunk Brazilian in this godforsaken country would knock on our doorstep just to ask for directions but instead of giving them the directions they need we pucker our lips to them. Then we grasp their chiseled bodies and wrap our legs around their waist. Then the girl begs to be stripped off her clothes and wanting to feel that pleasure. If I were a girl that horny I would think that way.
Now we go to part where we will difference libido from love.
For guys like us, libido happens when you want to go to the gym and get ripped just to get that girl’s attention and get it on with her for one night. Love happens when you are working out not to get that Derek Ramsey physique but because you are as scrawny as hell and you love yourself that you want to shape up to gain respect and respect yourself as well, not just to get that girl’s attention. Libido is when you buy a men’s magazine fap over it a lot and didn’t care about the consequence. Love is when you just buy one and don’t fap over it because you don’t want to get a single drop of you sperm over it since it is your prized possession and you still want to have it signed on the autograph signing before keeping it to your stash. For both girls and boys, libido does the work when you buy a bunch of roses, pick its petals and spread it all over the floor leading to one room with one person wearing a bath robe to the tune of George Michael’s ‘Careless Whisper’. Love is just buying a single stem of rose or bouquet of roses with a box of chocolates and just asking her for a date. Libido is truly working when you ask someone to watch ‘No Strings Attached’, ‘Friends with Benefits’, ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ even ‘Good Luck Chuck’ for crying out loud and trying to put themselves in the love scene and the masochism. Love is asking that one person to watch that romantic comedy whether it’s a Hollywood film or even a local film.
With that, we can never know when or how will our libido get a hold of us because when that happens it is when we go crazy for someone and never explain precisely on why did even like the person in the first place.